Some days don’t go to plan and others are a struggle for no reason. There is no rhyme or reason why, but it can throw you off course. It can cause you to over-evaluate the meaning of your thoughts and consequently turn on yourself. Whether it is a session that didn’t go as you hoped, a slip up at work, a comment that didn’t come out as you expected, or just a down day, we tend to take such experiences deeper than we should. As a result, we question our worth, value, and self belief. Somehow, this tiny mishap/moment of feeling down, has become all encompassing, and caused us to devalue ourselves. It happens to all of us, but many of us feel isolated and anxious as a result. I speak from experience.
When I have a day like this, I feel like I’m the only one in the world who lets the smallest of things get to them. I feel like a failure when the most insignificant thing goes wrong or not as I hoped. However, many of us react in the same way. We are our own biggest critics, but, there is one way we can make ourselves and others feel better, and that is through sharing.
You are not alone.
I say this time and time again. You are not alone. We forget it as soon as we realise it, but it never changes. If we all open up and share the experiences and battles we have with ourselves, no matter how big or small they are, we will see that we aren’t alone. For some reason, as soon as we realise that we aren’t the only person in the world to think in the way we do, we feel a million times better. So, if this is the case, why do we not open up more often? As soon as we share our thoughts, we feel less confused by ourselves, so think about how this makes somebody else feel. By opening up, not only are we therefore helping ourselves, but we are undeniably helping so many others out there too.
Mishaps make us human.
If we can all help others whilst also helping ourselves, think how much warmer the world would feel. It doesn’t help solve a problem, but it helps us recognise that we are only normal. Overthinking, worrying, overanalysing and scrutinising ourselves for the mishaps we make is what makes us human. We all do it. If we say we don’t, we’re lying. Not only to others, but to ourselves. It is all part of the human process. Taking the step and having the strength to share, is a very precious trait to capitalise on. A lot of people don’t have the strength to be honest to others about their struggles, so be proud of yourself for opening up. It isn’t an easy thing to do, and not everyone can, so if you have the power to share your thoughts and experiences, do it. You never know whose life you may be helping.
This is a blog to say, open up about how you’re feeling and share it, and share it again and again, because you will feel so much better when you find out you’re not alone. Not only will you feel lighter, but you will help someone else recognise this too and feel better within themselves. Life can be hard, and we can be so hard on ourselves, so open up, and recognise that you are not alone and you are not crazy. You are just human.
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