Confidence

Confidence comes in all shapes and sizes. How confidence looks on one person is not how it looks on another. Some are quietly confident whilst others prefer to vocalise their confidence, but what does look the same, is how confidence presents itself on the inside. It is the confidence we possess in our ability, those around us, and the process we follow, that allows people to pursue challenges despite how they appear outwardly. 

Confidence in yourself.
This is quite possibly the hardest sort of confidence. A lot of us are very quick to criticise ourselves and put ourselves down when things don’t go to plan. Especially when you decide to pursue something in life that isn’t guaranteed (most things we do in life), because you have to be confident in your own ability, or you are more likely to fail. Being confident in ourselves enables us to pursue whatever excites us and be proud of the decision. Sometimes, believing in yourself is the hardest step to take, but the one that will most likely lead you towards success. It has taken a lot for me to build up my self confidence, and don’t get me wrong, some days I don’t have much, but the one thing I have noticed, is that I tend to outdo my expectations, when I tackle a challenge with 100% confidence in myself. It isn’t fluke, it’s the way it goes.  

Confidence in those around you. 
Whilst we are all responsible for our own actions, a lot of our life adventures rely on other people too. Whether it is a coach, a partner, a relative, or a business partner, it is important to have confidence in those supporting you, and to trust their opinion. Sometimes, not always, but sometimes, you are lucky enough to find someone who knows what’s right for you more than you know yourself. Recognising when it is right to be confident that someone else will guide you in the right direction and have your best interests at heart is powerful. Sometimes this trust, coincided with self belief, is the magical equation that allows you to take steps you never thought possible. 

Confidence in the process. 
In my eyes, the most important sense of confidence one can have is confidence in the process they are on. Without this, the confidence you have in yourself and others, can be irrelevant. Being confident in the process involves possessing a patience; a frustrating trait, but a vital one. We all have the unique journeys we do for some reason, so trusting where life takes us, and absorbing the ups and downs is all part of it, because who knows where the journey may take you if you have confidence in it. 

Confidence doesn’t come overtime. It takes a lot of hard work and persistence to build up, but don’t give up on it, because it is a very powerful trait to possess.