We all have those days. It’s only natural. You wake up and everything just feels a bit of a challenge. You feel tired, your head feels a little cloudy, and your mood is a bit flat, but you’ve got a whole day ahead of you with some important things you need to get done. For me that might involve a key session, but it could be an important day at work, or a big day supporting someone around you. Whatever it is, we want to do our best to get out of that feeling. Here is an insight into what I do to deal with the difficult days.
I try to give myself some slack. Not everyday is going to be amazing, and that is ok. If every day was exceptional, our standards would slowly change and soon our exceptional would become our bad. Essentially, difficult days are unavoidable, but we also need them in order to appreciate the days when everything clicks. They also teach us so many lessons. Rather than waking up and dreading a difficult day, accept it and realise that the day holds lots of opportunities for us to grow as individuals. It is these moments where we grow and become stronger because we learn how to make the most out of testing times. My coach always reminds me of the rule of thirds; it is ok to feel great a third of the time, ok a third of the time, and crappy a third of the time. If you are feeling each of these roughly 1/3 of the time, you are doing great and consistently moving forward without realising.
Control the controllable.
In all walks of life, there is no point wasting time worrying about what we can’t change, because we can’t change it, and there is no value in wasting time worrying about what we can change, because we CAN change it! Therefore, we should not worry about what could lie ahead in the day, and instead focus on controlling what we can within the day to ensure we can be our best selves. This can be as simple as starting the day with your favourite breakfast whilst listening to some upbeat tunes, or staying away from social media to avoid any comparison doubts that could creep in. Whatever it may be to you, focus on doing what you can that makes you feel a little bit better, and wipe out anything that brings your mood down.
Positive self talk.
Confidence starts with the way we talk to ourselves. Therefore, if we wake up on a difficult day and immediately tell ourselves that we are going to have an awful day, we have already set off with the wrong mindset. This will affect our attitude and actions towards the day without us even realising. Therefore, if we take the time to reframe the way we talk to ourselves, it can give us a little mental boost. Tell yourself that you are ready for whatever the day brings your way and you ARE strong enough to handle it. It is also important to enter every day, no matter what note it starts on, with an open mindset, as it can always change for the better at any point. No one truly knows what lies ahead of them.
Look after myself a little more.
Whether this is in regards to my spare time, in training, or when working, I make sure to allow myself a bit of extra time. On the days when my head feels a little heavy, I might need to warm up for a bit longer ahead of a session to get my body and mind moving more fluidly. I may need to allocate extra time to get work tasks done because my mind isn’t processing things quite as quickly as it does on other days. I usually add some extra relaxation time into my day to allow myself to recover, such as by having a bath, reading my book, watching a series, or having a nap! It is also important to fuel yourself as well as you would on any other day. Getting in plenty of nutrients and fruit and vegetables will help keep your energy levels as high as possible. Whatever you need on that day, let yourself have it.
There is no magic quick fix for turning a difficult day into an exceptional day, if there was, I’d be a trillionaire. The secret is acceptance and self care. It is ok to look after yourself when you wake up and your head is heavy. I hope this blog helps you get through the difficult days with a bit more understanding.
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